What brings value to your life?

I have been trying to answer this question for two weeks now after starting this article, "Simply: Why?", And yet I don't have a damn clue. I can't let this emptiness take control of me. So here I am forcing my brain to take action in the thinking process.

Last week I concluded after lots of research that emotion drives human. I mean not a little, but all of it. Like it or not that the way we are wired. All my life I have tried to control the input and the output of my emotion without realizing it. (I learned that last year after a couple of meeting with a psychologist.) The only thing that behavior had to bring me was rigidity, lack of compassion, negativity, and remoteness. But I am aware of it now. I can do something about it.

Then, if emotion drives us, where should I invest my time? 

We can talk about possessing "object," that bring us something, but there is a lot conversation about that right now. Search for "minimalist." I will only say that object are bringing temporary emotion and it is not a viable solution for me.

We can say, experience! Like traveling or scuba diving. But try to imagine doing those activities without sharing with anyone or talking about it. In my opinion, it is the same as the objects. It is temporary.

Then relation? What about it? The relationship brings a constant flow of emotion. The interaction is constantly evolving. You can interact with it, share, explore. Etc. Whatever you are doing with your relations it will not let you indifferent.

"Relation" seems the centerpiece of the canvas I have to build to get to what bring value in my life. 

Yesterday I wanted to discuss with my wife about my conclusion and explain my thought to her. She kind of shatter all the thing. Why ? Because I was saying that human relationship should be where we should invest more of our times and the fact is that we are both kinds of solitary, so she did not agree as you probably figure. 

I tried to bring her through my thought process to get a conclusion near mine, but she resisted. Could you believe it? Then I asked her What it is important to you? She answered that there is no list. Why? Because it is different every single day, she explained.

In the startup world, I often heard that to analyze if your project is viable, it has to bring pleasure or avoid pain. That fact pop-up in my head when she said that everything that makes her happy it is important to her and because the thing that makes her happy change every day there is no list.

So I was kind of right when I said that "relation" is the centerpiece of the canvas but with a few alteration. It is a mix of connection with object, activities or relationship that bring joy, so there is no need to focus on one thing but having an equal interaction with every one of theses categories and mixing it together to amplify the effect or make the emotions last longer.

I have the perception of turning in a circle. I started this process to eliminate what is n't important in my life and try to identify a path for my future, and I'm back at the beginning of my thought process.

Follow-up of "Simply: Why?" and written before: "What is the concept of been happy?"

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