Where is your EGO getting in the way?

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How do you feel when someone you refuse to reconcile with passes on?

Or a relationship you should have renovated but never did before their demise?

I once heard the story of a man who kept screaming the words “Do you know who I am” during a combative disagreement. Two hours after angrily driving out, he was involved in an accident where he lost an arm.

I sat wondering how anger and road rage can alter a life.

I pondered on how lack of conflict resolution skills can ruin our happiness.

I imagined the impact of our bloated egos on our physical health.

According to Eckhart Tolle, Ego is the FALSE sense of SELF! Identification with form / identifying with material things to bring value to yourself. Which primarily means thought forms, physical forms, emotional forms. So when I identify with something ' I make it the same'. The same as what? The same as I. I endow it with a sense of self and so it becomes a part of my identity. One of the most basic levels of identification is with things. My toy later becomes my car, my house, my clothes, my money, my spouse and so on. I try to find myself in things but never quite make it and end up losing myself in them. That is the fate of the ego. The advertising industry knows very well that in order to sell things that people don't really need, they must convince them that those things will add something to how they see themselves or are seen by others; in other words, add to their sense of self.

The ego tends to equate having with being. I have, therefore I am and the more I have, the more I am. It lives through comparison.

Every Egoic interaction between two people is, in reality, the interaction between four conceptual mind-made identities that are ultimately fictions. The moment you start to argue, you have identified with a mental position and are now defending not only that position but also your sense of self. The ego is in charge and when ego sets in, empathy disappears.

Where is your ego extinguishing your joy?

How is your EGO getting in YOUR way?

How is it hindering your NEXT income, next LEVEL, next RELATIONSHIP?

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Your ego is powerful enough to drain your future.

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