You can Re-Boot The Rest of Your Life Today

“Insanity is when you continue to do things the same way and hope for a different set of outcome or results.” - Albert Einstein

The season for new Resolutions passed just last month. Never mind that countless earlier ones over the years were not executed or successful. We just love New Year Resolutions, as if their main object did not lie in fulfilling them but to fail in them. Like promises, some were kept, while most others must fail or be broken. Seriously, we want to CHANGE, but HOW?

WHY DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE?

For many reasons, obviously. Mostly from a deep dissatisfaction of the status quo. You do not like your appearance; your career sucks; your boss is not sensitive or understanding; your lack of progress in relationships; have no close friends; no boyfriends or girlfriends; cannot afford that dream car or dream house or dream gadgets; cannot have what other people have; unhappy most times; unloved rest of the time; no one to love all the time; loneliness; depressed; want more of anything; want less of others; don’t like being sick or weak or medicated; having to depend on the unwilling; trapped in an unhappy marriage; stuck in an unhappy home; abused; beaten; hungry; cold; poverty; wars; diseases …. an endless list.

For most people, the reasons for change are more mundane and personal. You want to look better, more desirable and more beautiful. Modern marketing of personal and life-style products makes you feel too fat, or too thin, or too tall, or too short, or facial features non-symmetrical; eyebrows too natural, eyes not at same level, nose not in the middle of your face, your ears unbalanced, one foot bigger than the other, one leg longer, another arm too short, one hand bigger, mouth not aligned with face, unshapely body, breasts too high or too big or too small or too ‘different’ or not enticing enough … well, look at Nature where beauty emerged and flourished in diversity, differences and NOT symmetry or same-ness.      

Remember you were born an Original, why strive to live like an Imitation?

Yes, Becoming Yourself is to be Different already. Self-esteem is the best defense against the encroaching forces to make you an imitation of what other people want you to become. 

Truth is, the dissatisfaction with oneself has little and nothing to do with one’s appearance. It lies in our desire to be loved and to have a lover.  The journey through life is essentially a journey of love.  It is a journey along visible milestones of errors as one struggle to escape the end of otherwise meaningless existence.  One quickly discovers that paradox, ambiguity, chaos, absence and silence as central to the human condition.  

Many lapsed conveniently into the comfortable understanding of the human condition as one where we are all in a perpetually suspended state of incompleteness, in an endless search of that elusive Happiness.  The urge for “more” and “better” becomes quickly the justification for the pursuit of selfishness, thinly disguised as the noble accumulation of material wealth and prosperity, in the hope of locating the happiness which satisfies the ultimate true meaning and purpose of life’s existence. Sadly, but expectantly, “more” and “better” can never deliver the promised Happiness. The pursuit for life’s purpose hence degenerates into itself as the end.

In 2021, Resolve to Do Things Differently – Unlearn, Relearn and Learn to Discover Love and True Happiness.

This begins with a mental transformation to complete the awesome task of becoming your own realization. Stop occupying space and wasting oxygen, but be the change you want the world around you to become. Seek only the approval and encouragement of loved ones. Other people’s opinions do not matter, seriously. Open an inner Dialogue with yourself and affirm your individual uniqueness and significance. You also have to acquire the habits to unlearn, relearn and learn, the essential skills-set of learning agility.

Yes, flexibility and adaptability are the personal tools to engage the human conditions of paradox, ambiguity, chaos, absence and silence. Affirming yourself strengthens your self-esteem and facilitates the building of close and intimate relationships with those around you. Self-esteem empowers you to nurture and develop in others a greater capacity for love and for you to receive their love in turn. When we are at our best self, we readily share without fear or limit to bring out the best in others as well. Invariably, we also discover and rediscover Happiness at the end of such sharing of ourselves.

Go forth to Love and Share, to Discover Yourself and the Secret of True Happiness. The Open Secret of True Happiness lies in the creation of Happiness in the Life of Others.