Are You A Frog In A Bucket?

You may have heard the fable about a frog being slowly boiled alive.

The idea is that if you suddenly put a frog into boiling water it will know to jump out. But if you put a frog in tepid water which is then brought to a boil slowly, the frog will be cooked to death without really noticing it.

Even if this fable is not true, it conveys a powerful message that is easy to understand.

This story is a metaphor for the inability or unwillingness of people to react to a danger that arises gradually over time, rather than suddenly.

Why am I bringing this up?

Because I want you to consider that a lot of people live exactly like that frog.

As time goes by, they begin to experience declines in their emotional and mental health, or their relationships. Slowly. Gradually. Little by little.

First, they begin feeling a little more stressed out than usual. They don’t really pay attention because – well, stress is often seen as a normal part of life.

They may find themselves caught up inside their mind, worrying about things that shouldn’t really occupy their attention quite that much.

Perhaps, they begin to wake up at night or have trouble falling asleep.

They may begin feeling more depleted, more detached, not present, not as happy as they used to be.

They find themselves more nervous, or doubtful.

This can start impeding on their relationships, little by little.

They don’t have fun with their spouse anymore. Next, they notice that they argue more than usual. Oh well, they say, it’s been a hard week.

Then they notice that their phone is not ringing as much, as they’re not quite as pleasant to be around anymore, and friends and business associates begin to feel their changing energy.

But they still don’t really notice. They don’t really pay attention. They are just waiting for things to get better again. They say to themselves “It’s been a hard day/week/month/year… It should get better…”

Well, it often doesn’t get better over time, and actually gets worse.

This is because the mind gets caught up in the habitual way of thinking.

If you spend enough time in the worrying, nervous, …. (fill in the blanks) …. state, this state of mind becomes your new normal.

And it’s extremely difficult to get out of by yourself.

That’s where the frog analogy comes in.

Most people live exactly like that frog.

They don’t notice, or rather don’t acknowledge the small changes…

…Until the anxiety is really hitting them hard and the pain is so strong that they can’t ignore it anymore.

…Until the marriage is falling apart, and the divorce is looming on the horizon.

But at that point it might already be too late because the real damage has been done.

We see this more often than you may think.

That’s why we’ve created the Anxiety Danger Quiz that will help you assess where you are at (that is, how close you are to being boiled without noticing).

Here’s another thing I want you to consider – you don’t need to wait until the temperature rises to 100 C. Or 80 C. Or even 60 C.

Because at that point you’ve already lost a lot of time and missed out on a lot of opportunities.

You may want to start jumping out earlier, so that you have more time to live and enjoy your life.

And we offer a solution that will help you untangle the thoughts in your mind and start living with more passion, purpose, and peace of mind.

So that you can wake up in the morning and look forward to you day (regardless of COVID-19 and other external circumstances) because you have a happy, healthy, and positive outlook on life, and you have amazing, loving and caring relationships with people around you.

It’s easy – as long as you know how to do it. And that’s exactly what we specialize in.

Take action now, and don’t be that frog.

Book a 15 min brainstorming call to talk about you, your situation, and how we can help.