5 Steps to a No Regret Life

It doesn't take losing someone close to appreciate the gift of waking up each day. I know FOR SURE that we are all going to get a ticket out of here and death is an inescapable event.

When I left my career years ago, with 3.5 years left to retire with a full pension, people thought I was nuts. Well... I was. :-) But I remember thinking that if I was diagnosed with a terminal illness before I got my "secure" check... What's the point? I ran away into the unknown and years later, it's worked out pretty good.

Last week, my good good good best cosmic friend Jason Flennoy died suddenly and unexpectedly at 50 years old. It's devastating and although I will miss my friend dearly, I know he departed with peace.

He's been on a journey of healing FOR YEARS (we've all been through something) and had finally reached the last pinnacle of releasing and forgiving the past. It was a marvel to watch and experience.

He may not have done all he set out to do, but he did set out to heal and that was accomplished before his time was up. What are you holding onto and what needs to be done for you to live a no regret life before your time is up?

If this is scary for you to consider, I encourage you to WAKE UP and know that tomorrow isn't guaranteed for you to get it right. Retirement isn't guaranteed. The golden years ARE NOT GUARANTEED.

It’s never too late to live the life that you desire. Start today, where you are, and with what you have. Consider adopting these 5 steps to ensure that when you reach the end of your life, it will be without regrets.

 #1 Set Clear Goals

 “People with goals succeed because they know where they are going… It’s as simple as that.” – Earl Nightengale

Get clear on what you want in life and go for it! Sit down and write down 5 goals you would like to accomplish in the next 6 months; then for the next 12 months and again for the next 5 years.

When you set a clear vision for what you want, you have something to work towards, and a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Write your vision on notecards and hang them in your bathroom mirror. Have another set at your desk. That way your goals are always in front of you.

#2 Relationships

“You can be married to someone for 3 years and bitter about it for the next 30.” – TD Jakes

 Get clear on what you desire in relationships. Write down the characteristics of your ideal mate and don’t settle! A series of bad relationships can leave you traumatized and scarred. Choosing the wrong mate can also stifle your creativity, kill your ambition and deter you from living your dreams.

Get clear on your ideal mate and keep your mind focused on the traits you want and off the traits you don’t want. The Law of Attraction will bring you what you focus on the most, so if you’re constantly focusing on what you don’t want, you’ll keep getting it.

Be patient because it’s better to be single, happy, and living a blissful life than to be stifled, miserable, and trapped in a nightmare marriage that slowly corrodes your soul.

#3 Spend wisely

“Half of the stress that we go through is trying to pay for and take care of what we own.” – Joyce Meyer

 The quickest way to get into financial chains is to spend money beyond your means to look good for others. Some people put a lot of time and energy into looking like they have money, but don’t do the same for creating multiple streams of income.

Many people are trapped in jobs they hate because of mortgages and car payments and then write off their happiness for the sake of “Golden Handcuffs.” Be responsible and make good financial decisions. Take classes and get advice from financial counselors. Invest your money into growth vehicles and don’t spend your money to impress people who don’t care about you anyway.

#4 Be Mindful of Advice

“Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by ‘opinions’ when you reach DECISIONS, you will not succeed in any undertaking.” – Napoleon Hill

 Seek out successful people who have the results that you desire and emulate them. Be mindful of people giving you advice that don’t have the results you desire. When you buy someone’s opinion, you buy their lifestyle. If you were looking to buy a Range Rover, would you seek advice on how to best operate it from someone who drives a Dodge Neon?

This includes your family and friends. They may give you well-intended advice to save you from yourself, but if they are unhappy and miserable in their marriage, can they really tell you how to fix yours?

We all have 24 hours in a day. Spend your time learning from the people who are successful in the areas you desire success and avoid negative people who only want to bring you down.

#5 Regularly Evaluate Your Inner Circle

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” – Albert Einstein

 Just like the seasons change, there will be people in your life for a season and very few for your lifetime. When friendships and relationships become toxic and you feel like you are being held back and choked out, it’s time to let them go.

A key phrase of when it’s time to leave, is when people ask, “Who do you think you are?” This applies to your friends and coworkers. Don’t allow others to impose their limitations and fears on you. Be mindful if you are playing small to fit in with the group you are around. It’s said that you are the average of your 5 closest friends. If they are all broke and you desire more money, it’s time to get new friends.

The leaves on trees dry up and fall way in the fall, but a new set comes fresh and anew in spring. Make room for new friendships and experiences by cutting away the old. Only then will you see what you are really capable of achieving.

Keep these 7 points with you as you move through life. You have the power to choose how you show up in this world every single day. Be kind, love others, love yourself and you’ll discover a whole new world.

This life is not a dress rehearsal. THIS IS IT!! Live full and die empty! (Les Brown)

What BIG goals will you achieve this year that are worthy of getting uncomfortable to go after?

Christy Rutherford is an executive leadership advisor and high-level business consultant. Her clients received +$10 million in salary raises and promotions in 2020. A Harvard Business School Alumna and certified Executive Leadership Coach from Georgetown University, Christy is also a 6-time best-selling author.

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