Don't Kid Yourself. You're Done with That Company

Is this the right decision?

For many, work is a necessity; for others, it's a pleasure; and for some, it’s sheer torment. We spend a significant portion of our time at work, whether in the office or from home, and it’s unfortunate that not everyone can enjoy that time with balance and well-being.

Sometimes, a person’s goals, career plans, purpose, and dreams are completely disconnected from the organization's objectives and, naturally, from its values, principles, and ways of achieving results.

Yet, despite feeling dissatisfied, these individuals can get caught in a mental game with themselves, finding reasons to “hang in there” and “give their best” until life (or, more specifically, the company) makes the decision for them.

Beyond the financial factor—without a doubt, one of the strongest reasons to not quit a job—there are several emotional reasons that prevent people from making the decision to resign and explore more fulfilling and interesting options:

Competitiveness

“No Retreat, No Surrender”—This 1985 movie title perfectly captures the pride of those who believe that “getting off the train” is a sign of weakness. Who are you trying to impress? You don’t need to prove anything to anyone but yourself. In this sense, true success lies in recognizing the discomfort and uncertainty of change before it’s too late. Achievement comes from pivoting quickly and decisively when necessary.

Fear of Change

Uncertainty about what’s next creates anxiety, and our brain tends to interpret any change as negative simply because the unknown makes us uncomfortable. Trust me, you burn more glucose by holding on to the illusion that you’re in the right place than by facing the unknown. Sooner than you think, you’ll find yourself adapting to something much better.

Lack of Self-Confidence

Some people doubt their ability to find a new job or think they don’t have the skills to thrive elsewhere. However, the skills that have brought you this far will continue with you, and once you take the leap, you can add “Decision-Making,” “Resilience,” and “Self-Worth” to your skill set. Taking the step is, in itself, a strong demonstration of what you’re capable of achieving, and this should boost your confidence.

Loyalty or Guilt

Some feel a deep loyalty to their employer or team and fear abandoning colleagues or causing disruption by leaving, especially if they feel they “owe” something to others. But, just like in romantic relationships, people and times change, and although there may be fond memories, reality lets you know when it’s time to move on.

Social Pressure

Sometimes, societal pressure pushes us to hold on to stable jobs, even if they don’t make us happy, because economic stability is valued more than personal satisfaction. However, deceiving yourself is not the answer, especially if you’re hoping the situation will magically change. The key is being honest with yourself and taking action.

So, now what?

It’s time to stop hiding behind excuses and face reality. If you don’t, you’ll not only remain stuck in a draining situation but also miss the opportunity to find something better. But before making that decision, reflect on these questions for greater clarity:

• Is there any aspect of your job that you genuinely enjoy? Perhaps there are parts of your role that still motivate you. If so, ask yourself if they are enough to stay or if they merely serve as distractions from a bigger issue.
• Are there external factors, such as family or your partner, that are causing you more stress than your job situation? Sometimes, work can be an escape from other life tensions. Make sure to identify whether the problem truly lies at work or in another aspect of your life.
• Do you honestly believe you won’t find something better? This is a common fear, but with the right skills and experience, there are always opportunities. If you dare to step out of your comfort zone, you might be surprised by what the market has to offer.
• Do those people to whom you feel you “owe” something really appreciate you staying, even though you’re unhappy? Loyalty is important, but your happiness and personal well-being matter more. Evaluate whether your staying is truly appreciated or if it’s just your perception.
• Do you find yourself dreaming of other options or companies where you’d rather be? If you’re constantly imagining a different life, it’s a clear sign that you’re not in the right place. Your mind is already exploring new possibilities; now, you just need your body and decisions to follow.

In work—as in a toxic relationship—deciding to quit isn’t easy, but staying in a place that drains you emotionally and physically can be far worse. If, after reflecting on these questions, you feel that you truly want a change, it’s time to take the leap. Life is too short to waste in an environment—or with a person—that doesn’t make you happy.

Your intuition, that inner voice we often try to silence out of fear or comfort, can be your best ally in moments of decision. If something inside you is telling you that you’re not in the right place, trust that feeling. At the end of the day, the responsibility for your well-being is yours alone.

Be honest with yourself, listen to your intuition, and ask: Is this where I want to be? If the answer is no, stop deceiving yourself and take action. Change may be frightening, but it can also be the beginning of something incredible.

Yes, it is likely the right decision