I’m so emotional.

I was with someone for 10 years who had no tolerance for emotions. 

When I cried he would say “oh my god not again,”  roll his eyes and walk away.

Even when I’d be excited to see him when he came home from a trip he would shame me for being “too excited” and tell me to tone it down because I embarrassed him. 

“Anyone who makes you feel bad for getting excited about something is the worst kind of person." - Taylor Swift.

Just emotions in general he had no patience for.

I think he had a really hard time with his own emotions too. 

He didn’t know what to do with them and I’m sure it was very hard to be him. 

And I am that person that I cry when I’m watching a real Canadian baking show.

Or any other reality show where people have to “go home”. 

But emotions are part of life.

They can’t be shoved down. They have to be listened to and felt. 

Even “Bob” in the boardroom has emotions. 

He lose money one day? He’s gonna feel that on a visceral level.

He may get angry and hit the table or break something when he’s emotional because he’s been socialized to believe that’s better than “crying.”

But guess what! - He’s still emotional! 

When we were moving into our new house in May of 2023 and things were a lot to do.

My partner Andrew doesn't like big changes (even when they are exciting)…

He felt particularly overwhelmed because our daughter was starting a new day care. 

There were lots of forms to fill out and we had to pack up, make sure everything was set to sell our Condo, cleaners needed to be hired, movers, and everything else had to get done all in the span of a week. 

While I had done my best to logistically arrange everything I could ahead of time, what with the closing on a new house and having to go to banks, the realtors office etc, to get different things and just the whole thing was a lot. 

So he looked at me and he said, “I’m feeling so overwhelmed right now I could just cry.”

And here’s what I said. “Go ahead” and I gave him a hug.  

I told him to go and take care of himself, give himself whatever he needed.

I asked what do you need? 

Like not what do you “think you need to get done” but what do you really need?

Whether that is to cry.

Whether that was some alone time outside, a walk (I know he loves going on solo walks and listening to podcasts) or whatever it was.

It was important that he did that. 

I saw the relief come over his face.

Permission to cry.

Permission to feel.

Permission to be.

In the midst of whatever is going on. 

Ask yourself what you need and give it to yourself. 

It’s the most beautiful thing you can do. And surprisingly the most productive.

Often in my programs participants will cry. Or they will express they feel the urge to cry or they will cry. 

And I’m honored to be the space where they feel safe to express that.

Because that’s not a space I've had for a long time. 

I had to do everything I could to suppress my emotions or remove myself from feeling them. 

And because of that, I know that everyone needs a space to be safe with their emotions.

The Value Vision program is a place where tears can come up.

Tears of remembering your value. 

Tears of being someone that has more value than you thought or saw before.

Tears of clarity.

Join us here. 

WEEK 1 is available to watch on demand and so are all the bonuses. 

Check it all out here.

-Natalie