Comment l’auto-compassion peut-elle stimuler votre motivation et votre productivité?

People who work for themselves often cite how much more motivated they are than when they used to work for an employer. Especially if their former boss was unrealistic or uncaring. Then, the question is, if I work for myself (my self), what sort of boss is that self? If the boss is a fragile ego that berates my mind and body for underperformance or routinely belittles my talents, efforts, or character, then I'm no better off "working for myself" than I am for any other terrible boss. If the "self" I work for is one that is understanding, patient, and compassionate (self-compassionate), then won't I be more motivated, confident, and productive? We don't need self-degradation for high standards and ambition. That's a weak ego's fallacy.

Please everyone or personal happiness? For me, it’s personal happiness. Pleasing myself definitely works. Pleasing everybody else does not work, no matter how hard I try. Self-compassion is one of the most important skills which we need to learn. It is not about being selfish, it is about becoming more aware of our own happiness and works towards it. I always compare self-compassion with airlines Oxygen mask warning. "Secure your own mask first, before helping others." If we are happy from inside, we definitely spread happiness. One important concept I learned is that we should hide our emotions, for example if we are sad, then it is ok to feel sad, etc. Expression of emotions makes us happy. Let it go.

Self-compassion is a valuable tool for enhancing well-being and building resilience. By treating oneself with kindness and understanding, individuals can develop greater emotional intelligence, motivation, physical health, and stronger relationships with others.

I used to be very hard on myself as I have dyslexia which affects me in simple ways to others without dyslexia. To others, it may be simple, but to me, it's big. It's been a long journey of self-doubt, fear, and trying to do things the way that pleases others.🤯 I had to learn compassion for myself by telling myself it's ok to be me and do things my way. I am breaking that cycle now with positive self-talk, trusting myself and accepting my differences as my superpowers and owning them... Thank you for allowing me to contribute. 😊

Self is a thought. Some thoughts are useful, others not. Constructive thoughts promote self-compassion, while negative ones harm - we created those thoughts. Compassion for ourselves requires identifying which parts of ourselves need it. We need a self that knows which thoughts are harmful and avoids them. With this clarity, we conclude that negative thoughts makes us unhappy. When self and anxiety are one, it’s too late. Best to believe we are not our anxiety. Doing that will give us a stable, positive self that thinks “I'm grateful for my positivity and don't blame myself for my mistakes”. Our productivity will increase because we focus on solutions rather than problems. Our purpose will drive us, not external successes or failures.

There's a common misconception that self-compassion means letting yourself off the hook or shirking responsibility. In reality, self-compassion is about treating oneself with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer a good friend, enabling a more balanced approach to personal growth and accountability. Another myth is that being compassionate towards oneself reduces the drive to improve. However, self-compassion actually enhances motivation by linking self-improvement to self-care rather than self-criticism, promoting a more sustainable form of motivation.a

Recognise that making mistakes and facing difficulties is part of the shared human experience. This perspective can reduce feelings of isolation and foster a more compassionate attitude towards oneself and others. Speak to yourself as you would to a friend who is facing challenges. This shift in self-talk can dramatically affect your emotional well-being and approach to work.

𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀: Be aware of your feelings and thoughts without judgement. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗞𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during difficult times. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝗛𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆: Recognise that everyone makes mistakes and experiences difficulties. You’re not alone. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲: Prioritise activities that promote physical, emotional, and mental well-being. 𝗣𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸: Replace negative self-talk with positive, encouraging messages.

From a healer's perspective compassion is the greatest virtue one can have. It is not easy to have compassion. Individuals often focus outward when learning compassion but having it for oneself is the biggest challenge. While learning self-compassion it is important to stop criticizing and judging yourself. Be ok with your failures and learn to make improvements. Self-compassion is being kind to yourself even when you are at your lowest. Learning and making improvements by accepting yourself is the key to self-compassion. Understanding and valuing your uniqueness and putting it across is the best way to bring self-compassion.

Practicing self-compassion is linked to improved emotional well-being, including reduced anxiety, depression, and stress. This positive state of mind supports higher levels of motivation and productivity. Motivation derived from self-compassion is rooted in intrinsic values and self-care, leading to more sustainable and fulfilling productivity.

𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲: Self-compassion can increase resilience, helping you bounce back from setbacks more quickly. 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹-𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴: It can enhance overall well-being, leading to increased happiness and satisfaction. 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆: By reducing stress and promoting a positive mindset, self-compassion can boost productivity. 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀: It can improve relationships by fostering empathy and understanding. 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗜𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁: Self-compassion encourages personal growth and self-improvement.

Some of the areas not included in the article are: 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲: Developing self-compassion takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself during this process. 𝗕𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲: While self-compassion is important, it’s also crucial to maintain a balance and not let it turn into self-indulgence. 𝗖𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀: Be aware that cultural factors can influence how self-compassion is practiced and experienced.

Self-compassion enhances motivation and productivity by fostering a positive mindset. When individuals treat themselves with kindness and understanding, they are more likely to overcome setbacks, reducing self-criticism and fear of failure. This cultivates resilience, enabling sustained effort and increased focus on goals, ultimately boosting overall productivity.

In a environment of fear, the topic of self-compassion will rarely be introduced and most especially when the need is to produce, hit targets & deliver with timely constraints. So the onus is on YOU to have a practice of Self-Compassion. A way that I have found that works for me and maybe for you: is the use of a Loving Kindness meditation(Buddhists call it Metta). Its a mantra based meditation repeating the phrase: 'May I be well, may be I be happy, may I live in peace' You adapt these over the course of mediation, including 'May you be well. May you.....for a person you love unconditionally, a person you struggle with and a person who is 'neutral' in you life i.e. someone you meet each day but do not know & of course you include yourself.